Malin Andersson has taken to Instagram to reflect on a tough year that started with the death of her newborn child Consy.
Malin’s daughter Consy was born seven weeks premature in December last year and was being treated at Great Ormond Street hospital, but sadly passed away on 22 January.
Taking to Instagram on Saturday, the Love Island star, 26, shared a year old photograph of herself in a figure-hugging jumpsuit with her baby bump in full view.
Heartbreaking: Malin Andersson has taken to Instagram to reflect on a tough year that started with the death of her newborn child Consy
She added a heartfelt post in which the TV personality opened up about how she struggled alone to ‘deal with grief’ before deciding to ‘change my mentality.’
Malin began her post with an introduction centering on how people waste time by ‘focusing on things that don’t serve us’ and by ‘focusing on things that prolong our pain.’
She then talked about how she has spent the year since the death of little Consy, admitting that her initial feeling was that maybe it would be better if ‘time didn’t exist’ or if she herself didn’t exist.
She wrote: ‘But I knew that would be the easy way out. I suffered in my own pain, my victim mentality for a few months. I cried, I drank, I grieved, I was happy, I erupted. I didn’t really know who or where I was going anymore.
Tragic: Malin’s daughter Consy was born seven weeks premature in December last year and was being treated at Great Ormond Street hospital, but sadly passed away on 22 January
Support: Malin was offered support by a a host of celebs including Geordie Shore’s HollyHagan and TV personality Myleene Klass
‘One day I woke up. I decided that I should change my mentality. I knew that one year from then my pain could be eased if I changed my mind and my thought process. I knew it wouldn’t be easy, but I thought of my future and that happiness would eventually exist.’
The TV personality went on to say that she made a conscious choice to not let her child’s death define her, and rather, she used it to help her ‘transform’.
‘I wanted to flourish for my mum and girl. So I pushed hard, I pushed through and grew. Each month that went by, it became a little bit easier,’ she said. ‘I went to therapy, self helped, read, cried it out, don’t get me wrong I slipped back a few times but that’s part of the journey.’
Stepping out: Malin Andersson put on a brave face as she enjoyed a night out at Piccolino Hale in Cheshire on Wednesday
Finishing her post, she added that she is now able to look of old photos of her during pregnancy, and photos of Consy.
‘I’m now sat here in my living room, looking through these photos, smiling. Smiling because I’ve grown, and I know that they would be proud of me. Proud of the growth.
‘But I’m asking you all – those of you that are grieving, that have had loss, please please take a moment. No matter how hard, try, try take those first steps to therapy, pick up a book, call a friend.. and transform.’
She finished: ‘Time is valuable. We will never get it back. Sending all my love to all of you. I know this isn’t an easy journey, but remember you’re not alone.’
Surviving: Malin shared an empowering post in October about survival following the deaths of her parents and daughter and claimed these experiences don’t ‘define’ her
Malin has previously noted that she has used her previous experiences including battling an eating disorder and suffering domestic abuse to grow.
Alongside an image posted in late October, she penned: ‘This is me.. I stand up tall to everything I have faced. My past does not define me.
‘Losing my mum, dad, daughter, surviving domestic abuse, eating disorders and other various life experiences do not define me. I use all of this to grow, and then I use my growth to help you all grow.’
‘I still stand up tall. Nothing will knock me.’
Alongside the image in October, she penned: ‘This is me.. I stand up tall to everything I have faced. My past does not define me’
Heartbreaking: Malin’s daughter Consy was born seven weeks premature in December and was being treated at Great Ormond Street hospital, but sadly passed away on 22 January
Malin went on to include a quote by Malala in the post, which read: ‘I am beautiful, worthy, courageous, sad at times, an empath, feel pain of others, choose to smile when I know I can’t. I see the good in people when I’m blinded by it.’
‘I have fed mouths that have spoken sh** about me. I have wiped tears of those that have caused mine. I have picked up people that have knocked me down.
‘I now stand up tall, and know everything I stand for and my truth. I ask you to do the same. Never change who you are because of hurt you have experienced.’
‘Whatever pain you have encountered from the cause of someone else, just know that it’s a reflection of them and not you..
‘I raise up my voice; not so that it can shout, but so those without a voice can be heard.’ – Malala’
It comes after the TV star shared a shocking picture of her heavily bruised arm in a bid to educate people about the dangers of domestic violence.
Raising awareness: The TV star shared a shocking picture of her heavily bruised arm in a bid to educate people about the dangers of domestic violence
Malin added a lengthy caption: ‘⚠️ *TRIGGER WARNING* ⚠️ So I wanted to share this post with you all as it’s NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH. It’s all a bit raw for me but I wanted to raise awareness for domestic abuse.
‘I just want to post traits and warning signs so you can recognise them before it’s too late. I will open up fully and share my story once I come to terms with it all and I hope you understand.
‘Domestic violence affects millions, both women and men, of every race, religion, culture and status. It’s not just punches and black eyes; it’s yelling, humiliation, stalking, manipulation, coercion, threats and isolation.
Details: Malin, didn’t reveal who caused the injury to her arm, listed a number of traits and warning signs for her followers to raise aware for National Domestic Violence month
‘It’s stealing a paycheck, keeping tabs online, non-stop texting, constant use of the silent treatment, or calling someone stupid so often they believe it.
‘Traits of a narcissist: Grandiosity, Lack of empathy, Emotionless, Self perception of being unique, Needing continual admiration, Sense of entitlement, Exploitative of others, Envious of others, Pompous and arrogant demeanour.
‘Very good at acting. Now I will write about FEELINGS when involved in a narcassistic relationship – Feeling not good enough / lack of worth, Self-doubt and second guessing, Chronically apologetic – Confusion and as though you are losing your mind.
‘Helplessness and hopelessness – Sadness and depression – Feelings of anxiousness, shame, worry, – Unsettled, Mental and emotional exhaustion.’
Malin went on to add further guidance for those affected, adding: ‘Women’s aid hotline – 0808 2000 247
Heartbreak: Malin has had a difficult year, beginning with the sad passing of her newborn daughter Consy in January, aged just four weeks, following a premature birth